Virtual Divorce & Family Mediation · Minnesota
Minnesota divorce & family mediation.
Zero stuffiness.
Divorce mediation: $1,695 per person, flat. Usually one prepared 3-hour session, ending in a written agreement on every issue. What's included →

I’m Ryan, your mediator. I don’t take sides. Spouse not ready? Start with a call on your own. You don’t have to agree to anything.
15 minutes, free. Or text Ryan: (763) 316‑8323
Based in St. Paul · 100% on Zoom, anywhere in Minnesota · also Minneapolis
What brings you here?
What $1,695 gets each of you
- ✓A private call with each of you first. Nobody walks in cold.
- ✓One prepared 3-hour session on Zoom. Many couples cover every issue in it.
- ✓A written agreement on every issue. Worked out by the two of you.
Opens a page written for the other person, with their own free call.
You Decide
You write the terms — not a court battle
4.9 Stars
4.9 out of 5 from 285+ Google reviews
100% Virtual
Meet from anywhere
Flat-Fee Pricing
No hourly billing surprises
"Ryan's calmness, casual approach, insights, and cohesiveness throughout the session helped us get through very difficult topics. I was relieved to find someone who spoke to us and for us."
— David H.
"As a family law attorney, I often refer potential clients to Ryan before they engage legal counsel. Some issues can be resolved more effectively through mediation rather than through the courts."
— Padraic Walsh, Attorney
"Ryan is a very relaxed but knowledgeable mediator. Not stuffy or formal at all, which helped me feel at ease during the process. After our session I felt informed and clear on how to move forward."
— Alexandra Rose
CHOOSE YOUR SITUATION
Start with what's actually happening
Pick the one that sounds most like you. Each one leads to its own page.
Our three-part process
The Flannel Three-Part Process
Every mediation runs on it, in this order, on purpose. Nothing is scheduled until you've both said yes.
Part 1 · The one-on-ones
15 to 45 minutes each · privateI meet with each of you, separately.
You tell me what you're worried about and what you think will be hard. Neither of you hears the other's call, and neither of you walks in cold.
Part 2 · The homework
Two halves · before you meetNumbers first, then your questions.
No binders, no stack of statements: accounts and balances. Then questions I write after both private calls, so nobody meets a hard question for the first time in the session.
Part 3 · The session
3 hours · Zoom · usually within a weekOne three-hour session, together.
You come in without an agreement; you leave with a written agreement covering every issue.
Why Families Across Minnesota Choose Flannel People
Professional, personal, and actually helpful
We Show Up in Flannel
Because real conversations happen when people feel comfortable. No stuffy suits, just genuine humans helping you find clarity.
We Cite Research
Every session backed by psychology and conflict resolution science—not just "trust us." Evidence-based methods that actually work.
We Get Results
4.9 out of 5 stars from 285+ Google reviews. Results matter more than professional credentials or fancy offices.
100% Virtual
No travel, no awkward waiting rooms, no extra stress. Mediate from your couch in your most comfortable clothes.

Meet your mediator →
Conflict floods the brain. Structure gives it back.
Neuroscience shows us that conflict activates the threat response. Cortisol and adrenaline flood the system, and rational thinking goes offline. Mediation works because we create psychological safety — a space where both people can think clearly again.
Through guided conversations informed by attachment theory and behavioral science, we help couples and families move from blame to understanding. You're not changing who you are. You're just getting unstuck together.
Frequently asked questions about mediation
Straight answers, whatever kind of conflict you're bringing
What types of conflict can mediation resolve?
We mediate divorce, couples, family, business, and post-decree conflicts — all virtual. We're based in Minnesota and work with people around the world.
That covers divorcing couples working through parenting and property, couples who want to stay together but keep having the same fight, families navigating elder care or inheritance tension, business partners and co-founders in dispute, and parents revisiting agreements after a divorce decree.
How much does mediation cost?
Divorce mediation is a flat $1,695 per person — no hourly billing. Other mediation types, like couples, family, and business, are billed per session.
The 15-minute consultation is free, with no credit card required. During that call we'll discuss your situation and give you an accurate quote. Most people find mediation far less expensive than court or lengthy attorney negotiations.
How long does mediation take?
Most mediations resolve in a single three-hour virtual session, and the full process usually takes one to two weeks end to end.
That's because the session is the last step of a three-part process: we meet with each person individually first, you complete a written pre-mediation intake, and then we mediate. By the time you're in the room together, the groundwork is already done.
Business and co-founder mediation follow the same structure. Some conflicts run longer or become a series of sessions, but one session is the baseline we build around.
What if the other person won't mediate?
Reluctance is common at the start. Most people are open to mediation once they understand what it is and what it costs compared to the alternatives.
A free consultation can help you think through how to raise it with your spouse, family member, or business partner. And if they say no now, circumstances change — feel free to reach out again later.
What happens after mediation ends?
You leave with clarity and a written record of the agreements you discussed. Mediation is not legal advice, legal drafting, or court approval, and we do not draft legal documents.
Once you have reached agreement, you can review next steps, documents, and filing questions with a qualified attorney or official court resources — more organized and further along than when you started.
What makes Flannel People Mediation different?
We combine evidence-based techniques — restorative practices, attachment theory, behavioral science — with genuine human conversation. No jargon. No fake corporate warmth.
Every session is virtual, so you can mediate from wherever you are. The 4.9/5 Google rating across 285+ reviews tells you more than any pitch could.
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Where we're based
St. Paul, Minnesota. Every session is on Zoom, anywhere in Minnesota. There's no office to visit.
